Last time we got together, I wrote about being happy. How are we doing with that? Are we instantly happy yet? Are we over the moon? Are we ecstatic over every aspect of our lives? I think I know the answer to all of these questions. The answer is, simply, no.
Let’s take a typical Monday-Friday work week. You feel super inspired Sunday night before you go to sleep. You wake up Monday morning happy as a pig in mud. Late to work, still happy. Forgot debit card at home, still happy. Get home, make dinner, give baths, put the kids to bed; Still happy through all the chaos. Repeat Tuesday and Wednesday. Still happy. You get home Wednesday, BOOM it happens. You get stuck in a rut. Nothing specific happened, you just get … funky. For some reason, you can’t pull yourself out of it so you clam up and talk to not a single soul. Your agitated and irritable. Now, you start thinking of all the negative things in your life and in the world. How do you feel now? Worse. You push everyone away and now your going to sleep upset because the people closest to you are disappointed and confused. Thursday rolls around, you wake up with a knot in your stomach from the night before. You forget your debit card at home and your late to work. How do you feel now? WORSE. We just wasted 1 whole day and will never get it back. All because you don’t know how to control your own emotions. Who knows us better than ourselves? No one. So, why can’t we pull ourselves out? Or so we thought. Guess what, You can !
With daily stress and struggle, you need to be able to free your mind at some point during the day or at night. You should have something you can think of during the day that pulls you right out, or at least makes you feel a little bit better.
A song, person, pet, place. Anything. Sometimes, I don’t even need to think of my person, place or thing. I can just say to myself “Samantha, What the hell are you doing, your acting like an idiot. STOP!!!!!!!” Don’t get me wrong, this does not happen often but when it does I feel so blessed that I am at the point where I can pull myself out of it and I’m mindful of my emotions.
Try to find a little bit of peace in everything. This way, everywhere you go, you have something to lean on.
I’m going to share some things I do to keep me sane or that helps pull me out of a funk. I’d love to hear what you do to free your mind. Leave it in the comments if you’d like to share.
- Your support system is NUMBER 1. It is imperative to have people around you that understand what you are going through. Just because someone has not gone through the same thing you go through, doesn’t mean they cant be support. Sometimes, we just need someone to listen or be a shoulder to cry on. And I don’t mean a whole circle of “friends.” I mean a select few people that love you unconditionally. You can tell them anything that you are feeling and they won’t judge you or change the way they feel for you. Most of the time, you can find this in your parents or siblings. Sometimes, we are lucky enough to find this in a boyfriend/girlfriend or best friend. Always, always, always keep your people updated on how you are feeling.
- Find a song, artist, playlist, station that makes you float away. It doesn’t have to be slow, calming music. It doesn’t have to be inspirational music. My music of choice when I’m in a funk is typically Linkin Park, Red Hot Chilli Peppers or the “Down In The Dumps” playlist on Spotify. How ironic? I listen to all of these religiously when I’m in a good mood, also. Music is a great escape. There is nothing more beautiful than connecting with the artist via lyrics and tunes. When you listen to music that you connect with, it proves that you are not alone with what you are feeling. You know that at the very least, that artist has gone through what you are going through. Plus all the fans.
- Quotes, Quotes, Quotes. I am IMMEDIATELY better every time I Google Inspirational or Motivational Quotes. This kind of ties into having a go to song because if you have a song you like, there has to be at least one verse that you really connect with. Read quotes or sing that verse to yourself and it should help pull some of the pressure off.
- Think of your goals. There is nothing more motivating than having realistic goals. Everything we do in life has an end result. So, if you are working toward something specific, you wouldn’t let anything get in the way of it. Whenever I feel myself getting into some type of weird feelings, I’ll think of what I’m working toward and kind of slap myself out of it. Is it really worth it to risk not accomplishing your goals or pushing someone away you really care about just to be miserable for a day? I’ll answer that for you. No, it’s not worth it.
- Treat your body right. Decaff tea, hot shower, water with lemon, seltzer and coffee in moderation. Typically, when I’m in a mood, I can’t eat. Drinking these things help settle my stomach so I can eat. When you are ready to eat again, be mindful of what you are putting into you body. Alcohol, caffeine and sugar will only make you feel worse in the long run. I always notice a difference in my mood if I have fast food or a home cooked healthy meal with lots of greens and protein.
- Write. How ironic. When I’m not feeling like myself, I write my feelings in a journal. It doesn’t have to be something fancy, just get your feelings out. You can’t internalize every little thought that goes through your head. Write it, blog it, sing it, bop it, pull it, push it. Dananananana. Do whatever you have to do to get the negative thoughts out of your head.
Nobody said it was easy. It really is worth it though. Your mental state impacts everything you do. Your job, raising children, having a relationship. My parents always told me “You can’t take care of someone else or make someone else happy unless you are happy and sane.” Boy, were they right. You’r mental health is so important. Even the mildest “bad moods” can, in the long run, turn into something serious, like addition or serious mental disorders. Take care of you first and everything else will fall into place.
Would you rather live your life or just exist? I know I want to live my life to the fullest. Together, we can make the change. Like I said before, I’d love to hear what you do to keep your mind clear. ♥♥♥ Samantha
If anyone ever needs anyone to reach out to, I’m here. I’m not a professional but I
can promise you I care and will try to help or at the very least, just listen. No one deserves to feel alone in a time of need.