At some point in our lives, we will come across “The One.” It may be our first love or a few after that. Sometimes, we get lucky enough and they’re our last love. Other times, we just have to live with the fact that they slipped away.
Everyone has that person. It’s the person that no matter how long it’s been since you’ve seen them, you still get butterflies thinking about them. A specific song or movie comes on, you think of them. You pass a place nearby or pass through their town, they pop into your mind. Looking through old pictures and a photo of you two randomly show up. If it’s been a long time since you’ve been with them, they may not always be in your mind. But when the pop up, it hits you hard. Like a ton of bricks to the stomach.
They’ve been around for very important times if your life and have helped shape you into the person you are today. How can you just … forget?
We learn at a very young age that we need to cherish those who are important to us and do anything we can to protect our relationship with them. Sometimes we take it for granted. We think, “They love me, so they won’t leave” or “He hasn’t left me yet, so I can still push the limits.” But what happens when you push them so far away that they never return. What happens when that solid relationship turns into an “on and off” relationship… and then what happens when it’s over. Completely over.
What happens? You deal with it. You call out of work for a week, don’t show up to class, lay in bed for days and binge eat. You don’t put makeup on because you’re just going to cry it off anyway. You stay far away from other people because you don’t want to put a damper on their day.
This person was your everything and you were theirs. You did everything together. You had a lot of firsts and a lot of lasts. The feelings were certainly a first and last. I feel like once you find that person, even if it doesn’t last forever, there will never be another like them.
Maybe it was the right person but the wrong timing. Maybe it was the right person and the right time. Or maybe it was just a hard lesson that needed to be learned. You don’t know what you have till it’s gone.
It’s better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all. Years and years and years go by and it feels like a lifetime. They say “What’s meant to be, will be” But sometimes, it just doesn’t feel that way.